When we SHARE

I have studied in school in our small town where i learnt to share things, to play games, to fight with friends and i also learnt to ask co-students if i need any help from them.

We all may have distributed chacolates at one year or other on our birthdays. We also had shared sweets that are distributed on the occasion of Independence day, Gandhi Jayanthi and  Republic day.

We may have played many indoor games at school like as I played Kabaddi, Arrow target game, Thokkudu billa. When i got stuck or got any injuries, we use to cry, get badaged and play once again in the ground.

When we have any disagreemtns with friends we used to fight with them. We used to question directly. We use to complain to leaders.

And at time of exams, we used to take help of otehr students to solve any Mathematical problems or equations in chemistry.

Anytime, we used to be so as we are. No inhibitions at any time. If any student behaves arrogantly we used to bravely stand before the and able to say that we will make complaint about their behavior to the master.

We used to share many personal things with classamtes. Our very valuable sharpeners, erasers, extra pencil withus , scale etc.,  At more higher level, we also share calculators, instrument box blah blah...and ta more higher level, we shared even answer sheets in examination room. We are in a mutual understadnign that we all are the oen and the same fighting for exams and future.

When we got into jobs, what changed people to stop sharing, stop asking, stop talkign to each other, stop helping!!! Here also we are all one and the same. Fighting for LIFE. The most important than any exam we had written. But we fear to ask any help. Asking help instead is treated as doing any illegal thing.

In playing games, if any of our friend fell down to earth, get injured then everryone in school surrond the person who is injured adn show our sorrow towards her/him. We make the person to feel better and to be brave enough to get back to the game.

But in our jobs, if anyone does any mistake, we all surrond him not to hlep him out but to punish him.  We never share our excellence. We never share our goodness. We never share our kindness. And we never share our love towards mankind. We are behaving worst than any animals. We never correct any collegue to make him/her improve professionally or technically!!! We always stand to celebrate partys of the company, but not ups and downs of our collegue.

We say we are professinal but we never have feelings and emotions to react for other person's tensions or sorrows.  Machines are so better as when they get heated enough they stop working and take rest. Where are these professional personalities gonig towards??? Is this a symbolic representation of personality disorder!!!

SHARING is the basic thing for a person that should give utmost happiness to self and not any pain in heart when shared. If its not happening then its a personality  disorder. 

 Everyone feel as if they are the great person in office/team than anyone else. These people always try to find some fault in other team members to prove themselves as best. This is termed as "Narcissistic Personality Disorder ". 

Here is the  link to get more understanding on these people:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder

thats why things we shared at our childhood became sweet memories while the situations we are in now in our offices have became worst situations which making us to share like sorrows in life and ;aways think to forget for tomorow.

- Lakhsmi Sravanthi Chowdam

Happy Holi

Happy HOLI!! :)

- Lakhsmi Sravanthi Chowdam

Unanswered Questions

In a regular day to day activities of our life or career, we may have come across several questiosn that are unanswered by  anyone. We cant find a solution for certain problems even when searched in GOOGLE. We come across certain  critical situations to handle for which there will be always two mutually exclusive solutions are available!!!

One simple situation is how to react when any of our collegue accuses against what we have not done. One saying is that in a corporate professional world, there is no place for emotions or reactions. One solution suggests us to keep quite for any blames and let the accuser know the reality. But if we keep quite people think its our mistake so we kept silent. If we argue to prove the real truth, people say we are impatient and in more worst situation they may say we are trying to defend ourself. If the other side refuses to listen our version, that makes the situation most worst than ever.

Any way we choose is dangerous in such situations. Whatever the way we choose to handle the situation, ultimately those scenarios hurts us much. I guess such situations are most faced by female employees as compared to male employees. Because any superior either male or female will give a chance to explain their version if the accused is a male person.When it comes to females, i dont know why immediately the tone and pitch of  the voice changes. There are very rare situations where any superior may in angry but still complain in lesser tone that regular voice.

A superior/team lead, either male or female can be good leader only when he/she thinks that they have to rectify the mistakes; But if they think other persons are doing a big mistake and they have identif ied it or they have catched the wrong, automatically the way of communiction changes to as if they have caught the thief after long time. And the the person who is accused will be held hanging before all the remaining team members.

Internally for people who are caught by their superiors in such scenarios, will behave ina  disagreement mood for all further situations that arise between them and their superiors.

This is all my analysis.This may vary on the situations and times. From my personal experience what i come across i wanted to share with you all.

Comments and sugestions are most welcome.

- Lakhsmi Sravanthi Chowdam

Valentines Day

ప్రేమికుల రోజు...ప్రేమ కు ఒక రోజు... పలకటానికి మధురంగా లేదు..వినటానికి కూడ గౌరవంగా లేదు. నాకు ప్రెమంటె చాలా గౌరవం. కాని ప్రస్తుతం ఆ మాట బయటకి మట్లాడటానికి ఎదోలా ఉంది. నాకు మా చెల్లంటే చాలా ప్రేమ అనటానికి నాకు మా చెల్లంటే చాల ఇష్టం అంటున్న.

When i think about whats the reason that causing me to feel like this, i get angry on the people who are getting down the respect for LOVE. I see  people who love each other on ROADS. I doubt that is that the love that they express on roads. I just oberving any of such people i understand their basical thought that they are trying to prove to themselves  that they are loving each other. They are affirming each other that they are in love with each other. I think why dop tehy try to prove themselves before others? Do they want to gain confidence? Or they wanted to prove that they are brave enough to face the world by behaving as they like against to society concerns.

I dont think anyone who are loving on roads are truley have love in them towards each other. I see that they have an ownership feeling on each other like she is mine and he is mine. I dont think its love.

One  example i want to share here, yeaterday i was returning home from shopping and stop at traffic red signal. One couple in black dress, on a bike just stopped beside my auto. The girl was looked like she almost fell upon him holding him with a bouquet of roses in hands. As i observed her, she looked like riding in clouds with dreamy eyes, very happily laughing in a consious that she had won this world. Sometime back i listened a sentence that LOVE is like a drug that amkes man a slave. It exactly showed up in her behaviour. Everyone around are looking at them. Its so embrassed for me that the auto driver was looking at them with a look that "how good it would be if he get down and catch them  both and beat them up on !!!", and a sigh came out of him and looked back to me. I tried to analyse what was in his mind to look back to me and my shopping bags.. I got two meanings like one whther I do also have a boy friend and i ahev made some shopping for valentines day. I immediately called my mother and said oh my mother i have done shopping for you. I dont know what he is feeling inside but after my call ended, he commented on the girls behavior on how now a days people(he meant girls here) are becoming as though he worried about his children how they become when they grown up.

Now I got to know why LOVE has become a word that makes people fear to spell it. One second i thought where this world is going. I hate people saying "I LOVE YOU" to each other. Is love expressed like that. Does love needs to be spoken in words? Is it a desease to have some prescribed medicine to have it on a daily dose?

I know love is the thing that stays in heart like which stays in our mother heart. It makes people respect each other. I think poeple have forgot the meaning of respect. If i ask anyone what is repect efinilty they will say its like standing  before elders. Thats it!!! No surprise, the education itself is upto that level.

I saw some (as they say themselves as lovers) fighting and scolding each other on roads. I saw many unexpected emotions expressed on roads. Its making other people having a cinema on roads free of cost.

I think poeple who say themself lovers, looking like they are in a role play of lovers. They always think they have to be like this or like that like Romeo Juliate did. Their role models are hero and heroine in films, which never teach what repect and understanding is. When i asked a question to one of my friend,  what is understandign in relationships; My friend who always used to say she has a good understanding with her boy friend, answered for my question, "understanding is the mutual agreement that she listen to him when he says and he listens to her words when she says.".

I am in shock now. So will continue on this in next post.



- Lakhsmi Sravanthi Chowdam

My Lost Mornings

ఈ రోజు వేకువనే నేను చూసిన మొదటి దృశ్యం, రూం లో పవర్ లేదు. బయటకి వచ్చి చూస్తే అప్పుడే తెలవారుతుంది. ఈ మహా నగరం లో సూర్యోదయం చూడ లేకపోయినా, పక్షుల కిల కిలలు లేకపోయినా అప్పుడే పుట్టినట్లుండే ప్రకృతి కూడా నచ్చింది. ఈ కాలుష్యపు ప్రపంచంలో ఇంకా మనును కదిలించే దృశ్యాలు కనిపిస్తున్నాయంటే అది దేవుడున్నాడని రుజువేమో!!!

అప్పుడు నాకు మా ఇల్లు గుర్తొచ్చింది. మా ఇంట్లో వాకిట్లో జాజి చెట్టు ఉంది. పొద్దున్నే సూర్యుడు రాకముందు చూస్తే ఎలా ఉంటుందంటే బాగా విచ్చిపోయిన జాజుల మీద మంచు బిందువులు , పూల లోని తేనె కోసం వాటి చుట్టూ తిరిగే సీతాకోకచిలుకలు. ఆహ్లాదమయిన చిరుగాలి, వెచ్చటి సూర్య కిరణాలతో ప్రశాంతంగా ఉండేది. అప్పటికే అమ్మ అన్ని పనులు ముగించేసి, వేడి టీ రెడీ చేసి పెట్టేది. బద్దకంగా ఆ టీ తాగుతూ పేపర్ చదివేదాన్ని.

A Short Story About Relationships

When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned toast in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school. I dont remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite!


When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the toast. And Ill never forget what he said: Baby, I love burned toast.

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, Debbie, your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she is really tired. And besides a little burnt toast never hurt anyone! You know, life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people. Im not the best housekeeper or cook.

What Ive learned over the years is that learning to accept each others faults - and choosing to celebrate each others differences - is the one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

And thats my prayer for you today. That you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of GOD. Because in the end, Hes the only One who will be able to give you a relationship where burnt toast isnt a deal-breaker! We could extend this to any relationship in fact - as understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or arent-child or friendship!!

Bright Future

We are never living, but only hoping to live; and, looking forward always to being happy, it is inevitable that we never are so.

The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, not to anticipate troubles, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.

The Apple!!!

Once there was a small kid on earth. One fine day it came to know that god is distributing apples to humans in his place at heaven. The kid was so happy to receive that news and it went with lot of enjoyment to heaven to get the apple from god. There was a big queue standing to get apple from god and this kid also joined in that queue. While it was standing, it was fully excited and thrilled for the fact that it is going to receive in person from god's hands. Its turn too came and the kid showed its both the hands to receive apple. God gave the apple but unfortunately the tiny hands couldn't hold that big apple. Apple fell down and got wasted in mud. The kid got so disappointed. The ministers near the god informed that if the kid likes to have an apple from god again then it has to again follow the queue. Having waited for so long the kid didn't want to return back to earth with empty hands so it decided to wait again in the queue.

This time the queue has become even longer than the previous one. While waiting in queue, the kid could see lot of people who returns back with apple in hands and utmost satisfaction on their faces. The kid was so much disappointed and thought why me alone didn't get the apple in hand when all others were easily able to get it. What is the sin I did that I alone should suffer like this. Now the kid was so scared that it should not miss the apple again. Again its turn came and god gave the apple to the kid's hands and after giving the apple god spoke to the kid.

"My dear child, last time after giving you the apple only I noticed the apple I gave to you was a rotten apple and that's why I made that to fell down from your hands. Having given you a rotten apple, I felt bad for you and I wanted to give you the best apple in the farm and that time the best apple in the farm was growing and that's why I made you to wait such a long time in the queue. Here it is. Now the apple that you have in hand is 'The Best' apple in the farm till to date. Enjoy."

Moral : Friends, sometimes it so happens, as even after we put our 100% dedication and commitment things may get delayed or things may go wrong. Believe that god has something great for us and that's why this has happened. Always say, 'Gratitude & patience is absolutely the best way to bring more in one's life'.

Lessons of Life

You cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up.


If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, and fulfillment of your fall.



Moral


Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest.

Don't judge life by one difficult season.

Waht Is My Role Today?

Its true when someone said "life is a like a drama", It all depends on how well you act your role.. And I guess I am very poor in that, Sorry, What's my role?

Every day I question myself and I am sometimes confused that shall I follow as it goes? OR shall I have any plans? Not exactly. It must be both and it includes some hope that some thing goes good Today or Tomorrow.

Yes, I have set some goals to reach, and i have made a plan to reach them. May be the plan doesn't include day by day activities to execute but part of it can be executed any time today or tomorrow.

So I hope that will happen Today or Tomorrow.

And expectations surely I am learning to avoid because that may leads to disappoitnments and sorrows.

"Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives: where we focus our attention."