Unanswered Questions

In a regular day to day activities of our life or career, we may have come across several questiosn that are unanswered by  anyone. We cant find a solution for certain problems even when searched in GOOGLE. We come across certain  critical situations to handle for which there will be always two mutually exclusive solutions are available!!!

One simple situation is how to react when any of our collegue accuses against what we have not done. One saying is that in a corporate professional world, there is no place for emotions or reactions. One solution suggests us to keep quite for any blames and let the accuser know the reality. But if we keep quite people think its our mistake so we kept silent. If we argue to prove the real truth, people say we are impatient and in more worst situation they may say we are trying to defend ourself. If the other side refuses to listen our version, that makes the situation most worst than ever.

Any way we choose is dangerous in such situations. Whatever the way we choose to handle the situation, ultimately those scenarios hurts us much. I guess such situations are most faced by female employees as compared to male employees. Because any superior either male or female will give a chance to explain their version if the accused is a male person.When it comes to females, i dont know why immediately the tone and pitch of  the voice changes. There are very rare situations where any superior may in angry but still complain in lesser tone that regular voice.

A superior/team lead, either male or female can be good leader only when he/she thinks that they have to rectify the mistakes; But if they think other persons are doing a big mistake and they have identif ied it or they have catched the wrong, automatically the way of communiction changes to as if they have caught the thief after long time. And the the person who is accused will be held hanging before all the remaining team members.

Internally for people who are caught by their superiors in such scenarios, will behave ina  disagreement mood for all further situations that arise between them and their superiors.

This is all my analysis.This may vary on the situations and times. From my personal experience what i come across i wanted to share with you all.

Comments and sugestions are most welcome.

- Lakhsmi Sravanthi Chowdam

Valentines Day

ప్రేమికుల రోజు...ప్రేమ కు ఒక రోజు... పలకటానికి మధురంగా లేదు..వినటానికి కూడ గౌరవంగా లేదు. నాకు ప్రెమంటె చాలా గౌరవం. కాని ప్రస్తుతం ఆ మాట బయటకి మట్లాడటానికి ఎదోలా ఉంది. నాకు మా చెల్లంటే చాలా ప్రేమ అనటానికి నాకు మా చెల్లంటే చాల ఇష్టం అంటున్న.

When i think about whats the reason that causing me to feel like this, i get angry on the people who are getting down the respect for LOVE. I see  people who love each other on ROADS. I doubt that is that the love that they express on roads. I just oberving any of such people i understand their basical thought that they are trying to prove to themselves  that they are loving each other. They are affirming each other that they are in love with each other. I think why dop tehy try to prove themselves before others? Do they want to gain confidence? Or they wanted to prove that they are brave enough to face the world by behaving as they like against to society concerns.

I dont think anyone who are loving on roads are truley have love in them towards each other. I see that they have an ownership feeling on each other like she is mine and he is mine. I dont think its love.

One  example i want to share here, yeaterday i was returning home from shopping and stop at traffic red signal. One couple in black dress, on a bike just stopped beside my auto. The girl was looked like she almost fell upon him holding him with a bouquet of roses in hands. As i observed her, she looked like riding in clouds with dreamy eyes, very happily laughing in a consious that she had won this world. Sometime back i listened a sentence that LOVE is like a drug that amkes man a slave. It exactly showed up in her behaviour. Everyone around are looking at them. Its so embrassed for me that the auto driver was looking at them with a look that "how good it would be if he get down and catch them  both and beat them up on !!!", and a sigh came out of him and looked back to me. I tried to analyse what was in his mind to look back to me and my shopping bags.. I got two meanings like one whther I do also have a boy friend and i ahev made some shopping for valentines day. I immediately called my mother and said oh my mother i have done shopping for you. I dont know what he is feeling inside but after my call ended, he commented on the girls behavior on how now a days people(he meant girls here) are becoming as though he worried about his children how they become when they grown up.

Now I got to know why LOVE has become a word that makes people fear to spell it. One second i thought where this world is going. I hate people saying "I LOVE YOU" to each other. Is love expressed like that. Does love needs to be spoken in words? Is it a desease to have some prescribed medicine to have it on a daily dose?

I know love is the thing that stays in heart like which stays in our mother heart. It makes people respect each other. I think poeple have forgot the meaning of respect. If i ask anyone what is repect efinilty they will say its like standing  before elders. Thats it!!! No surprise, the education itself is upto that level.

I saw some (as they say themselves as lovers) fighting and scolding each other on roads. I saw many unexpected emotions expressed on roads. Its making other people having a cinema on roads free of cost.

I think poeple who say themself lovers, looking like they are in a role play of lovers. They always think they have to be like this or like that like Romeo Juliate did. Their role models are hero and heroine in films, which never teach what repect and understanding is. When i asked a question to one of my friend,  what is understandign in relationships; My friend who always used to say she has a good understanding with her boy friend, answered for my question, "understanding is the mutual agreement that she listen to him when he says and he listens to her words when she says.".

I am in shock now. So will continue on this in next post.



- Lakhsmi Sravanthi Chowdam