Being busy with heavy work schedules, these days i was not spending much time with any of my friends. Many of them understand the current situation in IT industry taht is not allowing to chat at office hours, but still some friends compalining that in anyway i have to make some time for them...:) Thats true actually.
Work schedules or whatever we involve in and become busy, but we must be concerned about friends. Even if we meet them its for very short time. And as we meet we start questioning each otehr as how are they? what they are doing? and just enquire all about their current life.And in between we answer to some questions posed by them too and say good bye and run in hurry to continue our daily "routine" work.
Yesterday too its happened to meet a friend online.He started questioning.I started answering.After some questions he started asking me "why i am not talking with him?". Then i said him, see we have not been conversing anything till now, its an question hour running between us.Its because in a hurry that any one of us may go offline, we just posing questions to each other thinking that we are caring or concerning about each other.
But we are forgetting the concept of conversation these days. Earlier when we are in college or after studies or at time of searching jobs, we use to send Emails concerning about our friends activities. We use to check mails for replies from friends. Now a days, we check mails for any job requirements or call letters or just to forward any funny mails to friends.
The culture of SMS and Chatting actually getting people nearer but they are erasing the communication or rapport and fellow feeling between them. These communication channels can never transport our feelings of sympathetic understanding. And the intense of the relationship is decreasing to very lower levels.
Conversation these days had became more mechanical and artificial which must actually be binded with emotional content.
Somedays back i even suggested by one of my best friend that not to disclose any of my personal issues about me to any of one whom i believe them as friends, as this may bring troubles for me. I was wondered and asked myself that what actually the conversations between frineds must include about? When friends meet, shall we start discussing on Politics? or on the downfall of IT? or on the Share Markets? Why should they all come between friends.
I strongly believe that if we are friends then we have to talk about our lifes. How we are coming out of problems.How we are goign in the life and with which attitudes.we have to think how to make our friends feel comfort when consoled in times of disappointment.We must chat about how to go forward in our careers. What the gifts they gave or took on their birthdays...Tell about the medicines they took which cured their daily or regular sickness...Share jokes they cut on their collegues or at work place...and much more to chat.
Anyways these all are my opinions.... May be after some years the word "conversation" will be replaced with "chatting" in the dictionaries.May god bless all poeple with more topics to chat about than regualr "hi how r u?" 's.
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