My Lost Mornings

ఈ రోజు వేకువనే నేను చూసిన మొదటి దృశ్యం, రూం లో పవర్ లేదు. బయటకి వచ్చి చూస్తే అప్పుడే తెలవారుతుంది. ఈ మహా నగరం లో సూర్యోదయం చూడ లేకపోయినా, పక్షుల కిల కిలలు లేకపోయినా అప్పుడే పుట్టినట్లుండే ప్రకృతి కూడా నచ్చింది. ఈ కాలుష్యపు ప్రపంచంలో ఇంకా మనును కదిలించే దృశ్యాలు కనిపిస్తున్నాయంటే అది దేవుడున్నాడని రుజువేమో!!!

అప్పుడు నాకు మా ఇల్లు గుర్తొచ్చింది. మా ఇంట్లో వాకిట్లో జాజి చెట్టు ఉంది. పొద్దున్నే సూర్యుడు రాకముందు చూస్తే ఎలా ఉంటుందంటే బాగా విచ్చిపోయిన జాజుల మీద మంచు బిందువులు , పూల లోని తేనె కోసం వాటి చుట్టూ తిరిగే సీతాకోకచిలుకలు. ఆహ్లాదమయిన చిరుగాలి, వెచ్చటి సూర్య కిరణాలతో ప్రశాంతంగా ఉండేది. అప్పటికే అమ్మ అన్ని పనులు ముగించేసి, వేడి టీ రెడీ చేసి పెట్టేది. బద్దకంగా ఆ టీ తాగుతూ పేపర్ చదివేదాన్ని.

A Short Story About Relationships

When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned toast in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school. I dont remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite!


When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the toast. And Ill never forget what he said: Baby, I love burned toast.

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, Debbie, your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she is really tired. And besides a little burnt toast never hurt anyone! You know, life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people. Im not the best housekeeper or cook.

What Ive learned over the years is that learning to accept each others faults - and choosing to celebrate each others differences - is the one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

And thats my prayer for you today. That you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of GOD. Because in the end, Hes the only One who will be able to give you a relationship where burnt toast isnt a deal-breaker! We could extend this to any relationship in fact - as understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or arent-child or friendship!!

Bright Future

We are never living, but only hoping to live; and, looking forward always to being happy, it is inevitable that we never are so.

The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, not to anticipate troubles, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.

The Apple!!!

Once there was a small kid on earth. One fine day it came to know that god is distributing apples to humans in his place at heaven. The kid was so happy to receive that news and it went with lot of enjoyment to heaven to get the apple from god. There was a big queue standing to get apple from god and this kid also joined in that queue. While it was standing, it was fully excited and thrilled for the fact that it is going to receive in person from god's hands. Its turn too came and the kid showed its both the hands to receive apple. God gave the apple but unfortunately the tiny hands couldn't hold that big apple. Apple fell down and got wasted in mud. The kid got so disappointed. The ministers near the god informed that if the kid likes to have an apple from god again then it has to again follow the queue. Having waited for so long the kid didn't want to return back to earth with empty hands so it decided to wait again in the queue.

This time the queue has become even longer than the previous one. While waiting in queue, the kid could see lot of people who returns back with apple in hands and utmost satisfaction on their faces. The kid was so much disappointed and thought why me alone didn't get the apple in hand when all others were easily able to get it. What is the sin I did that I alone should suffer like this. Now the kid was so scared that it should not miss the apple again. Again its turn came and god gave the apple to the kid's hands and after giving the apple god spoke to the kid.

"My dear child, last time after giving you the apple only I noticed the apple I gave to you was a rotten apple and that's why I made that to fell down from your hands. Having given you a rotten apple, I felt bad for you and I wanted to give you the best apple in the farm and that time the best apple in the farm was growing and that's why I made you to wait such a long time in the queue. Here it is. Now the apple that you have in hand is 'The Best' apple in the farm till to date. Enjoy."

Moral : Friends, sometimes it so happens, as even after we put our 100% dedication and commitment things may get delayed or things may go wrong. Believe that god has something great for us and that's why this has happened. Always say, 'Gratitude & patience is absolutely the best way to bring more in one's life'.

Lessons of Life

You cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up.


If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, and fulfillment of your fall.



Moral


Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest.

Don't judge life by one difficult season.

Waht Is My Role Today?

Its true when someone said "life is a like a drama", It all depends on how well you act your role.. And I guess I am very poor in that, Sorry, What's my role?

Every day I question myself and I am sometimes confused that shall I follow as it goes? OR shall I have any plans? Not exactly. It must be both and it includes some hope that some thing goes good Today or Tomorrow.

Yes, I have set some goals to reach, and i have made a plan to reach them. May be the plan doesn't include day by day activities to execute but part of it can be executed any time today or tomorrow.

So I hope that will happen Today or Tomorrow.

And expectations surely I am learning to avoid because that may leads to disappoitnments and sorrows.

"Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives: where we focus our attention."

Hare Krishna Hare Krishna

I almost gave in. I almost lost. This day almost got to me. Into the air my hands I tossed.  Almost walked away. Almost Cried. Almost threw caution into the wind. Happiness for myself? I almost denied

Almost... Then...I felt a brush of love against my face. Wings wrapped around me in a warm embrace. I heard a whisper into my ear...

"Don't you ever give up, I'm right here."

Lord Krishna said, "O Arjuna! You must fight.  Do not neglect your duty. It is a mistake. You must follow your own Dharma till death. Think that gain and loss, happiness and sorrow are equal.

"You must work alone. Do not think what you will get from that work. See, I am here. I am God. I am by your side. Wake up. Be cheerful. Worship Me. I am the Lord of all the worlds."

Success is failure turned inside out. The silver tint of the clouds of doubt, and when you never can tell how close you are.

It may be near when it seems a far; so stick to the fight when you're hardest hit.
It's when things seem worst, you must not quit.

Your success is waiting...

When we see someone successful, we say that he just got lucky. He must have been at the right place at the right time.

People only see one side of the picture.People don't see the failures.If you study history, you will find that all stories of success are also stories of great failures. So if you are failing Remember, success is waiting to happen.

The rose is fairest when it's budding new and hope is brightest when it dawns from fears.

Right Price

 

“The price of excellence is discipline. The cost of mediocrity is
disappointment.”

Every thing in the life cost some thing.Everything you get is by what you paid. We have many phrases like this that expresses the similar truth.

We complain about what we have, but we never look back what we  have exercised for attaining what we want actually. We play the things around.Sooner or later we realize and complain this is not we thought to get.

In our life too, if we want something we have to keep our complete efforts towards it. Never get disappointed when  the results are unexpected. You work for what you want. You will get what you are fit for. This is universal law of existence. Have a attitude to accept the result of your hard work. It may not be in the same form as you expected either positive or other way, its the fruit of your work, so take it for granted and be happy for attaining it.

And start re working again for what you actually want. Because the previous result showed you the result you get what you have done previously. So if the result is not as you like then you change your strategy and achieve what you want. One day or other you are surely going to get it. And no force in this universe can stop you getting it.

You have to get ready to pay the right price of the things you want in your life.

The right price is your attitude, love, sacrifice and dedication.

Love is…

Love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep on watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it.

-- John Winston Ono Lennon, 1940-1980

English Musician, Songwriter and Peace Activist

Get Rid of Fear

When we encounter a problem we immediately think of the person who can help us to get out of it. Or we search for people who already have passed such circumstances and take their directions to solve.Whenever any of the person we believed are not readily available to give their hands, we become depressed with fear and tension.

We sometimes make some expectations from others and plant them in our heart.Like they will do this or they will ask like this or some one will help me out from this. We take care those expectations to grow in branches in such a way that we become unable to pluck off any parts of it which are affected by our wrong assumptions. We just ignore everything. Our assumptions make us believe that our expectations result in reality.  But assumptions always result in unbiased.

We fear of for the unfair results. For all human fears, 75% of which is caused by our assumptions and wrongly perceived existing reality.Remaining part may include on other circumstances and on any other external factors.

To solve any problem, first of all have to remove fear from inner self.Get rid of fear. Calculate the results on real values than imaginary assumptions.You can any how compare with any existing statistical information on the same problem.Do backward analysis. Means, go in the upward direction from result you wanted to problem identified. Like, for this particular desired result what must be the pre conditions, post conditions and constraints. This way you can easily get out of any problem domain. Always keep in mind there is always two or more solutions for any problem. If you do a brainstorm, you can find many a  number of ways to get out of your current problem.

Pray for Peace

Om sarve bhavantu sukhinah,

Sarve santu nira-maya-ah;

Sarve bhandrani pashyantu,

Ma-kaschit dukha-bhak bhavet.

Om shantih, shantih, shantih.

Those Sanskrit wordings say that "Oh Lord may all of mankind be happy, may all of mankind be healthy, may all of mankind experience prosperity; may none (in the world) suffer from any desease. Om... Peace, peace, peace.

OM - The sound that brings peace to many, the sound that contains the principle of unity.


Universal Prayer for Enlightenment and Immortality

Asato ma sad-gamaya; tamaso ma jyotir-gamaya;

mrtyorma amritam gamaya. Om…shantih, shantih, shantih.

Lead me from unreal to real; lead me from darkness to light; lead me from death to immortality. Om…peace, peace, peace.

Spring and Telugu Vasantham - Ugadi Festival

After the intense cold of the winter, the spring arrives with its charm and beauty.

It’s time to drop your woolens and set off with an absolutely fresh look.

It is the most pleasant season in India. It begins with the ‘Holi’ in February and continues up to the end of March. Though it lives for the short duration, it bewitches people in such a way that they sing songs in its praise throughout the year.

The spring is one of the most beautiful, and most colorful. It emerges from the Earth.

In this season there is neither too cold nor too hot. That's why the nature wears a kind look. It is at its best with greenery everywhere. All the trees and plants are in bloom. The crops get ripen and the fields look golden. We see new and tender leaves which come out in the branches of the trees. The birds remain silent throughout the winter season. But as soon as the spring comes, they break their silence and start singing sweet songs. They look so gay that it seems as if they are thanking to God with their thousands of notes.


The power of spring and its regenerative effects are evidenced by the fact that every major religion includes a major holiday in the spring season.

At long last, spring would soon be in welcomed in this part of the world. Holi was celebrated all over India last week. The spirit of such a season helps us rediscover the many other blessings in our lives

Nature gives a grand feast to our hungry eyes. Buds of flowers peep to see its beautiful sight. Flowers bloom and spread their sweet fragrance all around. They make us feel healthy and active. We do much work during this season because we never get tired. We feel fresh all the time and this is the main attraction of the spring.

The villages present even more beautiful sight. There we find nature in its full bloom. The green and yellow fields fill our hearts with hope. The farmers look very happy because their crops are ripe and they would soon reap the reward of their months of long labor. They feel a feeling of plenty in the air. The spring revels reach a climax during the Holi festival in March. There is nothing but colour everywhere. Colours denote energy-the vivid, passionate pulse of life. Colour signifies the vitality that makes the human race unique in the universal scheme. Thus, the festival of colours i.e., Holi is a beautiful gift of spring.

Traditionally, Indians note six seasons, each about two months long. These are the spring (Sanskrit: vasanta), summer (grīṣma), monsoon season (varṣā), early autumn (śarada), late autumn (hemanta), and winter (śiśira).


There is no one who does not praise the beauty of the spring. In summer we have intense heat, in winter we have too much cold, and in rainy season we face suffering related to excess rain or scanty rain. It is only spring season when we have no complain at all. We have only pleasure all around and we never get tired of it. It is therefore said that spring is the queen of all seasons. It is really true. It is a matchless season and therefore all welcome it with full heart.

It is believed that the creator of the Hindu pantheon Lord Brahma started creation on this day - Chaitra suddha padhyami or the Ugadi day. Also the great Indian Mathematician Bhaskaracharya's calculations proclaimed the Ugadi day from the sunrise on as the beginning of the new year, new month and new day. The onset of spring also marks a beginning of new life with plants (barren until now) acquiring new life, shoots and leaves. Spring is considered the first season of the year hence also heralding a new year and a new beginning. The vibrancy of life and verdent fields, meadows full of colorful blossoms signifies growth, prosperity and well-being.

With the coming of Ugadi, the naturally perfumed jasmines (mallepulu) spread a sweet fragrance which is perhaps unmatched by any other in nature's own creation! While large garlands of jasmine are offered to Gods in homes and temples, jasmine flowers woven in clusters adorn the braids of women. Ugadi is thus a festival of many shades. It ushers in the new year, brings a rich bounce of flora and fills the hearts of people with joy and contentment!

Ugadi Pachhadi

It is a season for raw mangoes spreading its aroma in the air and the fully blossomed neem tree that makes the air healthy. Also, jaggery made with fresh crop of sugarcane adds a renewed flavor to the typical dishes associated with Ugadi.

• Neem Buds/Flowers for Bitterness
• Jaggery for Sweetness
• Raw Mango for Vagaru
• Tamarind Juice for sour
• Salt for salty
• Green Pepper for hotness


For more dishes go to:
http://www.neivedyam.com/2007/03/ugadi-feast.html

This mixture with all six called "Ugadi Pachhadi”, symbolizes the fact that life is a mixture of pleasure and pain, which should be accepted together and with equanimity.

We decorate the entrance of our houses with fresh mango leaves. And on the ground in front of their house we draw colorful floral designs. Wear new cloths. Everything looks feel-good on the day.


Later, people traditionally gather to listen to the recitation of the religious almanac (Panchangam) of the coming year, and to the general forecast of the year to come. This is the Panchanga Sravanam, an informal social function where an elderly and respected person opens the new almanac pertaining to the coming year and makes a general benediction to all present.

With all these, and

కొయిల కుహు కుహు రాగాలతొ, సరదాల సరాగలతొ, నొరూరే మామిడి పులుపుతొ, కొత్త చింతపండు రుచితొ, కమ్మని బెల్లం, వేప వగరు, పచ్ఛని మామిడి ఆకుల తొరణాలతొ, మురిపించె ముగ్గులతొ, కోటి ఆశల హరివిల్లుతొ నూతన సంవత్సరం ళొకి అడుగిడె సమయాన, మీకు, మీ కుటుంబానికి, మీ శ్రేయోభిలాశులకు విరొధి నామ యుగాది శుభకాంక్షలు

Stock your mind

What do you have in mind?" is actually, "What are you thinking about?"

You have to study and learn so that you can make up your own mind but you can't make up an empty mind. You cannot flush out anything from your brain. Why? Because it is a repository of information. It only takes input and processes the data and makes it organized, linked and mapped with other related and associated information. It is your house of treasure and no one in the world can interfere with it. Your mind is your house and if you fill it with rubbish from the cinemas it will rot in your head.

Suppose you wanted to arrive at a specific location like a beautiful landscape and you find a route map that would be a great help to you in reaching your destination. But suppose you were given the wrong map. But still you are unaware whether you are reaching to your destination or not. You go on following the map. Can you imagine the frustration, the ineffectiveness of trying to reach your destination?

You might work on your behavior -- you could try harder. Be more diligent. Double your speed. But your efforts would only succeed in getting you to the wrong place faster. You might work on your attitude -- you could think more positively. You still wouldn't get to the right place, but perhaps you wouldn't care. Your attitude would be so positive, you'd be happy wherever you were.

The point is, you'd still be lost. The fundamental problem has nothing to do with your behavior or your attitude. It has everything to do with having a wrong map.

When you encounter frustrating obstacles along the way, then attitude can make a real difference. But the first and most important requirement is the accuracy of the map.

We simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be. And our attitudes and behaviors grow out of those assumptions. The way we see things is the source of the way we think and the way we act.

Stock your mind with all possible information that is required for you mind to analyze and give you a right plan to implement. The more information you give, the more accurately will be the plan. Your brain is a super computer when supplied with input and predefined result, it gives the result as you specified. Your work is to supply with sufficient right data to it.

It is not a program to give Insufficient Data Error or Data out of range error. It doesn’t throw any exception. It processes with only available required information and produces the result which you perceive to be the actual result you desired. So,

Stock your mind, Stock your mind, Stock your mind.

The Sound of Silence

What is sound? According to modern science, it is vibration.

Where there is vibration there is a sound. Conversely, to produce a sound the vibration corresponding to it must also be created.

Among the five elements of the universe, Sound is the first and most subtle sense, making it the most powerful. Sound's object is akasha(Sky), the most subtle element.

Consider human beings and other creatures. What is it that determines their health and feelings? The breath that passes through our nerves and blood vessels, during respiration produces vibrations and on them depends the state of our health.

Breath is vital not only to the body but also to the mind. The mind which is the source of thought and the vital(pranik) energy that is the source of breath are the same. Healthy or unhealthy thoughts are to be attributed to different vibrations of the nadis.

In a sense, air going into our body in different ways is a manifestation of the yogic science: it is because of the vibrations caused in our nadis as a result of the passage of our breath that our emotions and powers take shape. There is a saying, "What is in the macrocosm is present in the microcosm. " As mentioned before, the vibrations within us produce vibrations outside also and these are the cause of worldly activities.

When you play the flute, the sound is produced by the air discharged in various measures through different outlets. Our throat has a similar system to produce sound. It is not that the throat alone is involved in this process. How do we speak and sing? Speaking or singing is an exercise that has its source below the navel in the "muladhara" or "root base" of the spinal column. From this point the breath is brought up in various measures as we speak or sing.

When the powers of nature are unfavourable to us, is there a way to change their behaviour and make them favourable to us? Is there also a means by which our mind could be brought under control when it goes haywire? If everything is caused by vibration, by sound, there must be a way of making the forces of nature favourable to us and of purifying our mind and bringing it under control through this very sound. The Vedas constitute such sound.

The Vedas are called "Sruti. " That which is heard is Sruti. "Srotra" means the "ear". The Vedas have been handed down orally from generation to generation and have not been taught or learned from any written text. That is how they got the name of "Sruti". Why were these scriptures not permitted to be written down? Because the sound of the Vedas cannot be properly transcribed. There are sounds or phonemes that cannot be accurately represented in any script.

On recognizing the power of the sound and its significance, the Vedas were taught with Sound as a key factor. There is a specific vibration to sound and it has been proven that sound can easily change the mental state of a person. Thus a sound can itself rise the level of Consciousness.

There is anomalous power in sound. When we spell the Vedas, the sound produced in the form of sound waves makes a rotation. These wave rotations become synchronous with those produced by the rotation of the earth. When this merging happens, anomalous energy gets produced.

You’ve probably heard the Sanskrit word paramahamsa, which literally means supreme swan. The swan is a symbol of purity. Incidentally, the Goddess Saraswati rides on a swan. The swan is also a symbol of So Hum, the basic mantra of the breath, the incoming (So) and the outgoing (Hum). When you reverse the mantra, it is hamsa which means swan. Saraswati is the Goddess of speech. She wears a white sari which she keeps white by purity, she wears crystal beads and she rides on a swan. Why a swan? The swan has a secret. If you pour milk on the water, the swan can take the milk out of the water, because there is an acid in the mouth of the swan that allows it to absorb the milk and leave the water behind. So the swans or the paramahamsas (the pure ones) know what is the nectar, the milk, and are able to drink in the nectar and leave the water (the world) behind. So by drinking in the sacred sounds of the Vedas and sounding the mantras you are in fact filling the glass of your being with this sacred milk, the Vedic sound vibration. This sacred milk fills your being and displaces all of the ink, the tamas or darkness, from your being. The real presence of the Divine occurs when the transcendental divine sound flows through us.

Om or Aum’ is a mystical or sacred Sanskrit syllable.Om is the universal name of the Lord.It is considered as the root mantra of all mantra.Om or Aum’ is the sound which is not the result of the striking of two objects. It, rather emanates on its own. It is the primal sound of the universe that contains all sounds in itself.

Om or Aum’ is the nearest sound which can be used to address the totality of consciousness.Om or Aum’ is the eternal sound. It is the sound of your soul.Feel it. Om or Aum’ is truth, vibration of consciousness.Om or Aum’ is peace, the primordial sound of the universe.

It is made up of the letters A (phonetically as in "around"), U (phonetically as in "put") and M (phonetically as in "mum"). The sound emerging from the vocal chords starts from the base of the throat as "A". With the coming together of the lips, "U" is formed and when the lips are closed, all sounds end in "M".

Four parts of OM: The OM Mantra has four parts. First, is the sound like "Ah," then "Uuuu," then "Mmmm," and finally the silence beyond the mantra. Thus, the mantra is also written as AUM, as well as OM. The three sounds, and the silence have the following meanings: 1. The A sound refers to the gross world. 2. The U part refers to the subtle realm. 3. The M refers to the causal plane, out of which the gross and subtle emerge. 4. The Silence after these three, refers to the absolute reality that is the substratum for each of the other three realities.

How to chant AUM:

Chant AUM beginning slowly with A sound increasing the sound U and slowly ending with M sound. While chanting AUM, the force should come from the stomach. Have you heard how airplane takes off?? first soft , loud and louder and softer.There are 4 things we should not forget while chanting AUM.Syllables There are 4 syllables in AUM. A, U, M and silence. while chanting AUM we should not move any part of our body even mouth should not be moved.Try to sit up straight.

How to say “OM”?
The saying or singing of the sound “om” (pronounced “aum”). Om is a simple sound that creates vibration, teaches slow & deep breathing, calms the mind.

Say/sing “ar” as in the start of “argh” for 2 seconds, then blend this into the sound of “u” like the end of “you” for 3 seconds, and end by blending into the sound “m”.

Try to create and feel the “a” starting in the abdomen, the “u” in the chest and the “m” in the mouth and lips. Your mouth will start open like a circle for a, half close to an oval or u and close fully to make them.

A: sound emanate from throat (force comes from stomach, force should come up toward your head)
U: sound emanate from tongue, sounds the loudest
M: Sound complete in back of your throat.
PAUSE OR SILENCE BEFORE ANOTHER A

At this time bring your concentration above your head. Please practice with this!!

BENEFITS
After you say/sing om, it becomes a memory too – a sound in the silence of your mind. When you say it is also a feeling, a vibration. When you do it, you learn that you need a deep inhale and a slow exhale (which is good breathing technique). Instead of a normal 12-15 (shallow) breaths a minute you reduce to about 4 (10 seconds exhale, 5 seconds inhale, repeated). It’s creates oxygen richer blood for the body …and brain.

IMPORTANT TIP
To ensure comfort and ease of breathing (and therefore clarity of say/singing om, sit upright so that your abdomen and lungs can freely expand and contract. Slouching restricts the lungs.
Yogi’s believe the body has a limited number of breaths.Therefore,

slower breathing = longer life
Life starts with breath, and ends when breath ends.In between we breath, non-stop, in and out.

Better breathing = better life

Life Responds

What you believe in you become. Your thoughts become your actions.

When your thoughts are positive the environment around you too looks positive. One negative thought may leads to wars and fights. It gives raise to enemity or rivalry towards with yourself. You start hating yourself inside and start blaming others for your situation.Stop thinking negative.

Start Dreaming. The dreams you choose to believe in come to be true.

When you feel in your innermost being that you will achieve what you set out to do, you open the way for miracles.

Choose to believe something good can happen from every thing that happens. Expecting it to happen good energizes your goal and actually gives it momentum.

Life responds according to your thoughts and your WILL.

When you are negative inside and only you spell positively, it doesn't yield good results. Life understand only what you are inside and it responds the same. then it looks all negative results happening around you. You find all wrong people surrounding you. You start thinking everything and everyone are working around make you away form your desires.And unknowingly you start hating people inside.

One has to know that every human being is surrounded by some electric waves. The strength of waves comes from your thoughts and beliefs.

Observe when you are angry, the waves around you change accordingly. Others can feel the dis comfortableness to be near to you. They move away from you even they don't know you are angry or sad inside. See children or pet animals very easily understand your angry. This causes the breakdown of your communication with your near and dear one's who are around you.

That's the power of your thoughts. So spread positive waves around you. Then people around you like to be with you and your companionship too.

Let you life responds as you like it to. Don't become slave to your wants and desires that grows the angryness, greedyness, selfishness inside you.

Have a beautiful celebrating Life.

Wishing you all Happy Colorful Holi.....

Red, blue, orange, green, yellow, white, pink all colours are dying to touch your face.

Here I send you Rainbow message…

Dipped Colors of Joy and happiness,

Those will make your life even more colourful..

May God gift you all the colors of life,

colors of joy, colors of happiness,

colors of friendship, colors of love

and all other colors you want to paint in your life.

Wishing you a Happy Holi…

Shiv Rathri (Shivaratri) Festival

Many of my friends asking me what to do on Shivaratri, make me to write this post.Festival is on 23-Feb-2009.

Shiv ratri literally means ‘the night of Lord Shiva’ that provides an opportunity to cleanse the ignorance and realize that you are Brahman(who has Brahma in innerself) and open the door to bliss.

Auspicious festival of Mahashivaratri falls on the 13th or the 14th night of the new moon during Krishna Paksha in the Hindu month of Phalgun. The Sanskrit term, Krishna Paksha means the period of waning moon or the dark fortnight and Phalguna corresponds to the month of February - March in English Calendar. Shivaratri Festival is celebrated on a moonless night.

Every month in Krishna paksha chathurdhasi (fourteenth moonday) is called masa Shiva rathri. The one that comes in the month of "Masi" (mid February to mid March) is called Maha Shiva rathri. This is considered as the most important vrata by the devotees.

Why is it celebrated?

Lord Shiva appeared in the form of Jyotir linga on this day. A ingam which had no end and beginning and it symbolizes Brahman.

It is said that one should practice non-violence on this day. Then are things like not to lie, strict brahmacharya, be compassionate etc.

According to Hindu mythology, observance of mahashivratri Vrat with discipline helps a devotee to control the two great natural forces that afflict a man, rajas guna (the quality of passionate activity) and tamas guna (the quality of inertia). When a devotee spends an entire day in the Feet of Lord and worships with sincerity, his motion is controlled and evils like lust, anger and jealousy, born of Rajas are ignored and subdued.

Mahashivaratri is thus not only a ritual but also a cosmic definition of the Hindu universe. It dispels ignorance, emanates the light of knowledge,makes one aware of the universe, ushers in the spring after the cold and dry winter, and invokes the supreme power to take cognizance of the beings who were created by him.

How to observe Fast?
On the auspicious occasion of Shivaratri, or Maha shivratri, devotees around the world observe Shivratri Vrat or Upvaas or fast.The fasting involves refraining from eating any food and not sleeping through out the night.

The day after Shivratri is Amavasi – the dark night or the no moon night. It symbolizes the evil forces – desire, greed, illusion, arrogance, jealousy, and anger – which dominate the Kaliyuga. Shiva is believed to have appeared in the form of ‘Lingodabhavamurti’ or Jyotir Linga on the Shivratri night. The Linga is an attempt to give form to the formless Brahmn. Praying to Shiva is to escape from miseries of Kaliyuga.

The Mahashivratri fasting begins on the morning of Shivratri and ends next day morning or the Amavasya morning. Since it is a long Upvaas or Vrat, many people consume a special meal known as ‘phalar.’

Devotees wake up before sunrise and take bath and wear clean clothes.Applying of sacred ash, or vibhuthi, is an important aspect on the day. People also wear a Rudraksha Mala. The idols of Ganesh, Shiva and Parvati are cleaned and a lamp is lit.Most people then visit a nearby Shiva temple. In most places, Shivratri is largely observed in temples.Some people observing fast consume a mid-day meal consisting of non-cereal food such as boiled potatoes which is made into a curry without onion, garlic, adarak or haldi. Most devotees go for a fruit diet and drink lots of water.No meal is eaten after sunset.Next meal is taken on the morning of Amavasi after doing puja and giving alms.

The entire night is spend in a nearby Shiva temple or by chanting Mantras or listening to stories related to Shiva.

Prayers

Some of the important mantras that are chanted on the day include:

Shiva Panchakshari Mantra – Om Namah Shivaya or chanting the sacred names of Lord Shiva.People who have a Shivling at home can bathe the Shivling with water intermittently throughout the night.

Shiva Sakti Panchakshari Mantra - Om Hrim Namah Shivaya

Mrutyunjaya Mantra –

Om Trayambakam Yajamahe
Sugandhim Pushti Vardhanam
Urvarukamiva Bandhanat
Mrutyor Mukshiya Mamrutat

Shiva Gayatri Mantra –

Om tatpuru?haya vidmahe
Mahadevaya dhimahi
Tanno rudrah prachodayat

Apart from this one can chant the 108 names or 1008 names of Lord Shiva or the 24 Sacred Names of Lord Siva.

Twenty Four Sacred Names of Shiva:

1. Om maheswaraya namaha
2. Om mahadevaya namaha
3. Om sarveswaraya namaha
4. Om shivaya namaha
5. Om Shankaraya namaha
6. Om Saswataya namaha
7. Om pasupataye namaha
8. Om umapataye namaha
9. Om brahmadhipataye namaha
10. Om parameswaraya namaha
11. Om bhasmangaragaya namaha
12. Om mahesaya namaha
13. Om nityaya namaha
14. Om shuddhaya namaha
15. Om mrutyunjayaya namaha
16. Om bhutesaya namaha
17. Om mrudaya namaha
18. Om sarvaya namaha
19. Om sadashivaya namaha
20. Om bhavaya namaha
21. Om sarvajnaya namaha
22. Om bhimaya namaha
23. Om vasudevaya namaha
24. Om tripurantakaya namaha

Linga Astakam:

Brahma Murari Sura architha Lingam,
Nirmala bashitha Shobitha Lingam,
Janmaja dukha vinasaka lingam.
That pranamami sada shiva lingam.

Deva MuNi pravarchitha Lingam,
Kama dahana Karunakara lingam,
Ravana darpa vinashana lingam,
That pranamami sad shiva lingam.

Sarva sukandhi sulepitha lingam,
Budhi vivarthana karana lingam,
Siddha surasura vandhitha lingam,
That pranamami sada shiva lingam.

Kanaka mahamani bhooshitha lingam,.
PHanipathi veshtitha shobitha lingam,
Daksha suyagna vinasana lingam,
That pranamami sada shiva lingam.

Kunkuma chandana lepitha lingam,
Pankaja hara sushobitha lingam,
Sanchitha papa vinasana lingam,
That pranamami sada shiva lingam.

Deva Ganarchitha sevitha lingam,
Bhavair bakthi pravesa lingam,
Dinakara koti prabhakara lingam,
That pranamami sada shiva lingam.

Ashta dalopari veshtitha lingam,
Sarva samudbhava karana lingam,
Ashta daridra vinasana lingam,
That pranamami sada shiva lingam.

Suraguru sura vara poojitha Lingam,
Sura vana pushpa sadarchitha lingam,
Parathparam paramathmaka lingam,
That pranamai sada shiva lingam.

Lingashtakam, Idam Punyam padeth Shiva Sannidhow,
Shivalokam avapnothi shive na sahamodathe.



How to Worship Shivling at Home?

Before starting the Puja, the devotee takes a bath and wear freshly washed clothes. Hymns praising Lord Shiva or the mantra ‘om namaha shivayaa’ are repeated to create a mood for worship. Then, the devotee sits in front of the lingam and blows conch or ring bells. This indicates the beginning of the Puja.

First it is the panchamrit abhishek - the libation of five holy liquids over the lingam. The libation can consist of any five of the following – water from river Ganga, honey, sugarcane juice, milk, yogurt, ghee, seawater, coconut water or milk, fragrant oils, rose water or other precious liquids. Usually, only milk of cow is used. While pouring the liquid, om namah shivaya is uttered. Some devotees utter the Lord’s name 108 times and some 1008 times. There is no fixed rule.

After the panchamrit abhishek, the lingam is cleaned with water from Ganga. (This is might not be possible always so just normal water.) After this the lingam is smeared with sandalwood paste and is decked with flowers. Water and sandalwood paste is used to keep the lingam cool, as Lord Shiva is always in a highly inflammable state. In some Shiva temples, cooling liquid constantly drops from pot hung above the Lingam.

Next, sweets, coconut and fruits are offered to the Lord. Camphor and incense are lit and ‘arati’ is conducted. Some devotees fan the lingam and sing praises of the lord.

Finally, ringing of bells or blowing of conch indicates the end of Puja. White ash (vibhuti) is rubbed on the forehead and it is also distributed. Fruits, sweets and coconut are distributed as ‘prasad.’

Significance of Puja Items

According to the Shiva Purana, there is a special significance of the six essential puja items used in the Shiva worship.

Bathing of Shivalinga with water, milk and honey and wood apple or bel leaves added to it, represents purification of the soul.

The vermilion paste applied on the linga after the ritual bath represents virtue.

Offering of fruits symbolizes longevity and gratification of desires.

Burning of incense sticks yields wealth.

The lighting of the lamp symbolizes attainment of knowledge.

Offering of betel leaves marks satisfaction with worldly pleasures.

All-Night Shiva Worship

Shivratri Myths

There are various interesting legends related to the festival of Maha Shivaratri. According to one of the most popular legends, Shivaratri marks the wedding day of Lord Shiva and Parvati. Some believe that it was on the auspicious night of Shivaratri that Lord Shiva performed the ‘Tandava’, the dance of the primal creation, preservation and destruction. Another popular Shivratri legend stated in Linga Purana states that it was on Shivaratri that Lord Shiva manifested himself in the form of a Linga.

Myhth 1

Lord Shiva and his wife Sati were in Kailash abode, and Daksh, father of Sati, was doing a big yagya (fire ceremony). Sati went to the yagya without an invitation from her father. Daksh was very proud, and out of his great pride, he was disrespecting God Shiva. Sati could not tolerate it. So she jumped in the fire of yagya and finished Herself.

When Lord Shiva heard about this incident, out of fury, he was on the threshold to destroy the universe. It was only when other gods interfered and calmed down his anger that it was saved. God Shiva was now alone and went into deep meditation. Then Sati again took birth as Parvati in the family of god Himalaya. So, from very childhood She was desiring to meet God Shiva. In order to break the meditation of Lord Shiva, She undertook grave austerity in the jungle- all absorbed in love of God Shiva. So the day was fixed for their marriage, and on this particular day, Hindu celebrates the union of God Shiva and Parvati.

Marital Bliss

Unmarried girls are supposed to perform the Maha Shivratri pooja with great faith. They pray to the lord for eligible husbands. Moreover, married women pray to Lord Shiva for for marital bliss and a long prosperous married life

Myth 2

According to one myth, Parvati performed tapas, prayed, and meditated on this day to ward off any evil that may befall her husband on the moonless night.

Myth 3

According to another legend in the Shiva Purana, once Brahma and Vishnu were fighting over who was the superior of the two. Horrified at the intensity of the battle, the other gods asked Shiva to intervene.

To make them realize the futility of their fight, Shiva assumed the form of a huge column of fire in between Brahma and Vishnu. Awestruck by its magnitude, they decided to find one end each to establish supremacy over the other.

Brahma assumed the form of a swan and went upwards and Vishnu as Varaha went into the earth. Nevertheless, light has no limit and though they searched for thousands of miles, neither could find the end.

On his journey upwards, Brahma came across a ketaki flower wafting down slowly. When asked where she had come from, the ketaki replied that she had been placed at the top of the fiery column as an offering. Unable to find the uppermost limit, Brahma decided to end his search and take the flower as a witness. At this, the angry Shiva revealed his true form. He punished Brahma for telling a lie and cursed him that no one would ever pray to him. The ketaki flower too was banned from being used as an offering for any worship, as she had testified falsely.

Since it was on the 14th day in the dark half of the month of Phalguna that Shiva first manifested himself in the form of a linga, the day is especially auspicious and is celebrated as Maha Shivratri.

Myth 4

According to a legend in the Ramayana, once King Bhagiratha left his kingdom to mediate for the salvation of the souls of his ancestors.He observed a penance to Brahma for a thousand years, requesting Ganga to come down to earth from heaven. He wanted her to wash over his ancestor`s ashes to release them from a curse and allow them to go to heaven. Brahma granted his wish but told him to pray to Shiva, who alone could sustain the weight of her descent. Accordingly, Ganga descended on Shiva`s head, and after meandering through his thick matted locks, reached the earth. According to a modified version, what reached the earth was just sprinkles from his hair. This story is believed to be re-enacted by bathing the linga. The love of water, the primary element of life, is also remembered in this ritualistic action.

Myth 5

According to one, during the samudra manthan, a pot of poison emerged from the ocean. This terrified the gods and demons as the posion was capable of destroying the entire world, and they ran to Shiva for help. To protect the world from its evileffects, Shiva drank the deathly poison but held it in his throat instead of swallowing it. Because of it, his throat turned blue, and he was given the name Neelakantha, the blue-throated one. Shivaratri is the celebration of this event by which Shiva saved the world.

Myth 6

A legend explains the benefits of the all-night worship of Shiva.

The legend of King Chitrabhanu is held to be a main reason of the origin of the fasting tradition during Maha Shivaratri festival. The story can be found in the Shanti Parva (chapter) of the Hindu epic Mahabharata where the old Bhishma, whilst resting on the bed of arrows and discoursing on Dharma (righteousness), refers to the observance of Maha Shivaratri by King Chitrabhanu. The story tells how the mighty ancient ruler Chitra Bhanu of the Ikshvaku dynasty, king of the whole of Jambu-Dwipa (ancient name for India), was once observing a fast with his wife when the renowned sage Ashtavakra came on a visit to his court with some pupils in tow. Finding the king fasting, Ashtavakra asked him the reason.

King Chitrabhanu explained that he had a gift of remembering the incidents of his past birth, and in his earlier life he had been Suswara, a hunter in Varanasi.

His only livelihood was to kill and sell birds and animals. One day, when out searching for a game, he shot a deer, but was overtaken by darkness and climbed into a bel tree for safety. Thinking that his wife and children were without food and waiting anxiously for his return, he began to cry bitterly. To his utter dismay, he also found his canteen leaking water. The water, together with bel leaves from the tree, fell onto a Shiva-linga (a symbol for the worship of Lord Shiva) placed at the foot of the tree. The next morning he sold the deer and bought food for his family. As he and his family was sitting down to have their food, a stranger arrived to his doorstep requesting for food. True to the ancient custom of Hindu hospitality, Suswara served the food first to the guest and then had his own. He lived for many years without learning that he had by chance fasted on the day of Shiva-Ratri, but when the hour of death drew near two messengers from Lord Shiva appeared to conduct his soul to paradise.

It was then that he learnt that he was being rewarded for having observed the fast on that auspiscious day and night. The messengers told him that the leaves he had dropped by chance on the Lingam, was in imitation of its ritual worship. Also, the water from his leaky canteen had washed the Lingam (also a ritual action), and he had fasted all day and all night. Thus, he had unconsciously worshipped the Lord during the night of Shivaratri and had earned great merit by the observance.

As a reward, his soul granted place in various heavens until it reached the highest, and he was afterwards reborn in high rank as a king and was specially favoured by being given the knowledge of his former life. Thus the Maha Shivaratri fast is said to have been first observed by Chitra Bhanu and the custom is still practiced in India. On Maha Shivaratri, devotees observe fast, offer fruits, flowers and bel leaves on Shiva Linga and keep vigil all night in honour of Lord Shiva.

The 12 Jyotirlinga Shrines of Shiva

Somanath: This temple is situated in Gujarat and is one of the first Jyotirlingas. According to Hindu mythology, Bhairavanatha at Prabhasa was worshipped by the moon, and hence Shiva here is referred to as Somanath.

Mallikarjun: Mallikarjun is situated at Sree Sailam, about 250 km From Hyderabad, near Kurnool in Andhra Pradesh. This is widely visited by Saivities and it constitutes one of the 12 Jyotirlingam shrines of Shiva. The deities here are worshiped as Mallikarjuna (Shiva) and Bhramaramba (Devi).

Mahakaleshwar - The shrine of Mahakaleshwar is situated at Ujjain (or Avanti) in Madhya Pradesh. It was considered to be the capital of King Vikramaditya Chandragupta of the Gupta dynasty. According to one legend, demon Dushana beset the residents of Avanti; upon the request of the population of Avanti Lord Shiva appeared from the ground and bested the demon. Since that period Shiva took up permanent address here as Mahakaleshwara Jyotirlinga. The Maha Shivaratri Festival is celebrated here every year with much ecstasy and gaiety.

Omkareshwar: It is situated on Mandhata hill on the banks of river Narmada in M.P. There are two famous temples dedicated to Omkareshwara and Amaleshwara. There is popular belief that once upon the request of the Devas, the Shivalinga split into two, one half being Omkareshwara and the other Amaleshwara or Amareshwar. King Mandhatha of the Ishvaku clan is regarded to have worshipped as Shiva here.

Kedarnath: It is situated near Badrinath in Uttaranchal, located on the Rudra Himalaya range. This shrine is accessible to visitors only once in every 6 months because rest of the time, it is covered with snow. According to Hindu mythology, Nara and Narayana - two incarnations of Vishnu practised severe penances at Badrikashramam, in front of a Shivalingam fashioned out of earth. When Shiva appeared in front of them, they requested him to take up a permanent abode as a Jyotirlingam at Kedarnath.

Bhimashankar: It is situated near Pune, Maharashtra. According to the legend, Lord Shiva is said to have taken house in the form of Bhima, upon to the request of the Gods on the top of the Sahyadri hills. The sweat that poured forth from his body after a battle is believed to have formed the Bhimarathi River. Thus, Mahashivratri is the biggest festival celebrated here every year.

Kashi Vishwanath: It is situated in Banaras, the city believed to be devoted exclusively to Lord Shiva and is a major shakti peeth of India. There is popular belief that any human being who dies here gets a place in the heaven.

Tryambakeshwar: It is situated near Nashik in Maharashtra. In ancient history, Gowtama muni lived here with his wife - Ahalaya. By virtue of his devotion received from Varuna, a bottomless pit from which he received an inexhaustible supply of grains and food. The other rishis, jealous of his fortune, arranged for a cow to enter his granary, and caused it to die as Gowtama attempted to ward it off with a bunch of Darbha grass. Gowtama therefore worshipped Shiva, to bring the Ganga down to his hermitage to purify the premises. The Ganga came down as Godavari, and Shiva took up an abode here in the form of Tryambaka. Interestingly, locals refer to the river here as Ganga and not as Godavari.

Vaidyanath: Vaidyanath is situated at Deogarh, in the Santal Parganas region of Bihar. This shrine is one of the 12 Jyotirlingas of Shiva and devotees throughout the country visit the shrine in large crowds especially on Maha Shivaratri.

Nageshwar: It is situated at Dwarka in Gujarat. According to one legend, God's devotee by name Supriya was attacked by a demon Daaruka and then, demon imprisoned him along with many others at his capital Daarukaavana, where he resided with his wife. Since then, Lord Shiva appeared there in the form of Jyotirlinga and is believed that he has beaten the demon with the Paasupata Astram.

Rameshwaram: It is situated in southern Tamilnadu. The temple is dedicated to Rama for his victorious return from Sri Lanka. According to the history, it is believed that Rama worshipped Shiva in the form of a Shiva Lingam made of earth by Sita, while returning to Ayodhya. It is believed that ancient temple has been demolished in 12th century itself.

Grishneshwar: It is located close to Ellora, in Maharashtra. The legend says that a devout woman Kusuma worshipped Lord Shiva regularly by immersing a Shivalingam in a tank, as a part of her daily ritual worship. Her husband's first wife, envious of her piety and standing in society murdered Kusuma's son in cold blood. An aggrieved Kusuma continued her ritual worship, and when she immersed the Shivalingam again in the tank, her son was miraculously restored to life. Shiva is said to have appeared in front of her. The villagers, since then, believed to have been worshiping Lord Shiva in the form of a Jyotirlinga called Grishneshwar or Ghusmeshwar.


Thoughts on Mahashivaratri by Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev

Mahashivratri is a night of many possibilities. It is the darkest night of the month. Its very darkness is cause for celebration. Normally, we tend to resist darkness and opt for light. On Shivratri, however, darkness is venerated as the symbol of creation and destruction.

The word Shiva literally means that which is not. That which is, is existence; that which is, is creation. That which is not is Shiva. That which is not means, if you open your eyes and look around, if your vision is for small things, you will see lots of creation. If your vision is really looking for big things, you will see that the biggest presence in existence is a vast emptiness. Just a few spots – which we call galaxies – are noticed, not the vast emptiness that holds. This vastness or unbounded emptiness is Shiva.

When we say Shiva, we are referring to this vast emptiness of existence. It is in the lap of this vast emptiness that all Creation has happened. Our ancient prayers are not about saving yourself, protecting yourself, or about doing better in life. The prayers have always been about ‘Oh lord, destroy me, so that I can become like Yourself.’

So when we say Shivratri, which is the darkest night of the month, it is an opportunity for us to dissolve our limitedness, to experience the unboundedness of the source of Creation, which is the seed in every human being. Shivaratri is an opportunity to bring yourself to that experience of the vast emptiness within every human being, which is the source of all Creation.

(Source: Articles from Times of India)



Aum Namah Shivaya !


Dharmo Rakshati Rakshitaha (Dharma protects those who protect it)


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Good Manners for Great Societies

How do you know how best your character is built?

It's not the mirror that reflects your beauty. The beauty of your character, attitude and the beauty of your inner self is reflected by your actions and reactions the people around you.The thorns and sensitive petals both reflects like our hate and love towards neighboring people.

The good and bad, joy and sorrow, angry and disguise, emotions and expressions everything reflects on the people around you or on the people who are connected to you. The waves and storms of your emotions you release into this outer world will come back to you only. So how much Good you want to come back to you, give that much to this world. Be liberal in this. This Nature is a great reflector for us to measure our self how we are and what we are.

Want to do a trial? OK let's give a smile to any person you know. Will he/she reply back with a smile? Definitely Yes. Why so? Did you observed why they replied back with smile? Its because the "culture" that strongly rooted deep inside us, to respect another person emotions and expressions. That's the manners we call sometimes. Now let us try give a smile to an unknown person.The other person will smile with an additional expression, "Does he know you earlier?".

Good manners play a vital role in building good persons and good societies. One thing I would like to remind you about our Indian culture here. Suppose let us try to offer a shake-hand to any unknown person.I am sure 99% of people hesitate to reply back with their hands put forth. But when you say "Namaskaram" to any unknown, they will definitely reply back with their folding hands. Even your enemy he may be, will fold their hands in respect to your custom. That's the great "Indian Culture".

Our literature and religious customs teaches us a very well, universally agreed and respected manners. Its the gift from our elders from many centuries. Its the proven culture the Indian's have in their blood by birth in this country. Our culture is built based on scriptures of Mahabharata, Bhagavath Geetha, Ramayana and many more. All these scriptures helped us to build good manners with examples life's of characters in those scriptures. Common man(like Mahatma Gandhi, Swami Vivekananda, Rama Krishna Param Hamsa etc) who followed the rules and paths specified in those scriptures had proven their versatile knowledge and left their foot steps for us to follow.

So lead you life that becomes an example for others to follow. Try to make your own foot steps for the betterment of future generation.

Rebuild and Save Your Relationships

Relationship should never be broken because of "A Person", "A thing", "A reason" or "A situation".

Relationship is not that lies between two people, its the matter that was created by the five elements of the universe. And this matter once created can never get destroyed even after the death of those people(like we listen some lines like those two were best friends when they were alive). It lies always....but may vary its colors and forms.

Its the responsibility of those people to build it if not yet built properly, to manage if it requires any maintainability and repairs, manage it towards the only good form of it and should be reworked every time to make this "matter" more comfortable between those people.

If there are any compalints, then there is fault by both, as both have neglected come area of their relationship and forgot the checklist before windup of any talks.

Checklist here I mean:

Whenever you talk to any person related to you, I mean if there is any realtionship between you and them, before closing any talk, just check do you had spoken any words that the other person may recall and hurt after the talks? Do check yourself always that after finishing your talks, that either other person will definitely smile after you turn around recalling your conversation or not? also, do check after a long time gap between you people, if either of you come across the names of each other, then a gentle smile appears on your face and just dial the other person to have a small hi or hello and vice versa....Never leave any conversation unclosed or incomplete.

If sometime or later if you find something wrong or empty in your relationships, just dont ignore it, Rework on it. Identify the cause or need or problem.This can be very difficult to many. Many people do have tendencies to believe that the symptoms of the problem are the actual problem itself.

If your relationship is worth saving, there is no reason whatsoever why you shouldn't put forth an effort to save your relationship.

If you have identified the problem is, hearing both of your thoughts is the next step. Tell everything you want to say to your partner and don't hold back. Afterwards, listen to what your partner has to say. It is suppose to be that way to successfully save the relationship. Reconnect to your partner by holding each others hand while you discuss about your problem. Bear in mind, that anything that your partner talks about is meant to rebuild the relationship, not to hurt you. You both have met to rebuild the relationship but not to make it more worse. Never lead this conversation to an argument. Just make it a discussion to understand each other and to understand what went wrong between you people.

Develop a plan of action to fix the problem.

When most of us say “I’m sorry!” it doesn’t work because the apology doesn’t include these two steps. Accept blame and acknowledge the pain you caused your mate. When you’ve done this, you are well on your way to rebuilding trust. There

First step to resolve any issue or problem is to accept the blame. Yes, you accept the blame and say "Sorry" too.The words you spell must just come from your heart and accept blame by seeing in the eyes of your mate.

Then say something like “I know I hurt you, and here is the hurt I think I caused you.”

You caused it, so you accept responsibility for that as well. “Hey, I know I made you feel like I don’t appreciate or respect you, and I know that I broke your heart in pieces…”

You must understand that once you commit to save your relationship, you are committing to the whole process of it. As you move forward, there will be moments of joy and there will also be moments of sorrow

But I remind you never ever let your ego run between the process of rebuilding your relationships. If it gets into, you start thinking like "why should I, every time?" Be cautious about this and go on.

Also Trust your mate as you do earlier of your breakup. Never doubt your mate after any breakup. And also never blame for the same incident once had happened and never ever recall the past breakups and pin point each other.

In most of the cases, the actual cause of any relationship problem is miscommunication or misconception. Make your communication better. Never hesitate to repeat any of your expressions to make other person conceive the same way you meant.

If you do maintain all these then all your realtionships stay healthier and better and makes you happy and gives you peacefull mind and increaeses your self trust and your capabilities.

Save your Relationships. Relationships are what that makes you stronger to struggle against your life and Relationships are friends that support you in your path of Life.

Life is a Struggle!!!

Life is a state of continuous struggle between ourselves and everything outside. Every moment we are fighting with external nature, and if we are defeated, our life has to go. It is, for instance, a continuous struggle for food and air. If food or air fails, we die. Life is not a simple and smoothly flowing thing, but it is a compound effect. This complex struggle between something inside and the external world is what we call life. It is clear that when this struggle ceases, there will be an end of life. - Swamy Vivekananda

Slum Dog Millionaire - A lesson and a review

It happened to watch this movie "Slum Dog Millionaire" on sunday. Apart from all the critics reviews, i just want to present my views on this movie.


After few minutes watching the movie first impresion I got is..."oh! its all about tyhe situations when how Jamal known the answers of the questions asked..". In most of the scenarios, i had closed my eyes many times with different emotions shattered in the mind.It took the audience in the streets of Mumbai and on the roads of life of a slum children.
 
It makes everyone to think about the lifes of  orphan childrens who roam on roads, whom we pass by ignoring daily in our routine life.although everyone knows the pain and harships in growth and upcoming of orphans,every one just ignores thinking they cant do anything anyways.But when we watch this movie it just touch our hearts and wakesup the emotions we burried inside.
 
For the explanation to the question, "the name of the famous film star acted in the fillm Zanzeer?", it showed how we people are flattered and admire CINE-HERO's and how extreme people act for satisfying their love and favoritism towards them.
 
For the scenario which showed the result of WAR between Hindus and Muslims, was very heart touching exploring the truths and darkness that gets into poeple lifes.Their suffering will not be lowered by any compensations given to them.Who fulfill the emptyness in their lifes? Why common man suffer from this religious fights? Who take their responsibility? The Government? or atleast common man, who escaped from the incidents? In such situations we read in newspapers and follow TV channels about what is happening next and next sitting in home and thinking "Oh Thank God!we are safe!" and atmost, most of us perform a formal remembrance meetings for the victims in 2 minutes silence. Aopart from many helping hands of many social welfare organizations, the los they incur is never can be filled. The little Jamal showed his kind heart in the rain to give shade for another human being(Latika) who is also the victim of the war. This raises a question...how many of us giving such a helping hand to our near by needed?
 
At younger stage Jamal and his brother Saleem  showed an example what is called "struggle for existance". It showed how they utilised their intelligence and common sense for living...It showed their big dreams in different stages of life.
 
For the question "Who invented the revolver?", i thought oh i dont know many of the inventors of the things i use in daily life activities. Very funny!!!
 
The movie made viewers feel all the emotions like love, angry, embrace etc etc. which took the main part of the success of the film.
 
The whole commitment Jamal shows for his relationship with Latika was touching deeper in heart.He never had doubted whether she in return loves him or wants him. He always thought her as his betterhalf and companion of his life regardless of how she is living or where she is grown up. What mattered him always is whether she is safe or good and always tried to make her happy upto his extent. It showed an exmaple of unconditional , pure, true and devine LOVE.
 
And Saleem, as a brother and elder of the family , his character was well tailor made and his action showed it all. The sacrifies he gives for his brother, the care and safety he think about his brother rather than his self reflected of the mentality of an elder one in a family.
 
Some parts of the film are unrealistic but it made viewers walk through the reality behind what they see and ignore in their daily routine.
 
Hats Off to the Story Writer, Screenplay, Editor, Director and the whole team involved in making of this film.The music also played much role to make viewers get involved in the situations with much more deeper sense.
 
I would like to say one more thing that there are so many great Indian movies which flahed light on many dark areas of lives and many dark areas of social issues.But they are not much focused to the world as this movie is being hit all around the world.And its true.
 
Thank oyu readers for having patience to read this prolonged review on this movie.I thought to provide some more but this may lead you away from reading much more sentences if i extend.So, I close here.
 
Happy Time!!! Happy Days!!!

Give your 100% in Relationships

A Small Story…

A boy and a girl were playing together. The boy had a collection of marbles. The girl had some sweets with her. The boy told the girl that he will give her all his marbles in exchange for her sweets. The girl agreed.

The boy kept the biggest and the most beautiful marble aside and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him all her sweets as she had promised.

That night, the girl slept peacefully. But the boy couldn't sleep as he kept wondering if the girl had hidden some sweets from him the way he had hidden his best marble.

Moral of the story: If you don't give your hundred percent in a relationship, you'll always keep doubting if the other person has given his/her hundred percent.. This is applicable for any relationship like friendship,love, employer-employee relationship etc.,

Give your hundred percent to everything you do and sleep peacefully

Change

From the pain comes the dream.
From the dream comes the vision.
From the vision come the people.
From the people comes the power.
From this power comes the change.

In every forest, on every farm, in every orchard on earth, it's what's under the ground that creates what's above the ground. That's why placing your attention on the fruits that you have already grown is futile. You cannot change the fruits that are already hanging on the tree. You can, however, change tomorrow's fruits. But to do so, you will have to dig below the ground and strengthen the roots.

So, change can be bought by getting change in yourself first. Never try to chaneg this world.... any change that has to happen is the change in "YOU".Unless you change, you can't change anything else in this world.

According to Karma Yoga, the action one has done cannot be destroyed until it has borne its fruit; no power in nature can stop it from yielding its results. If I do an evil action, I must suffer for it; there is no power in this universe to stop or stay it.

Similarly, if I do a good action, there is no power in the universe which can stop its bearing good results. The cause must have its effect; nothing can prevent or restrain this.

The future is only the extension of the present. Do your best now, to get the best "tomorrow".

Have a nice day!

Happiness

Realize that true happiness lies within your.

Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside.

Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting but only in giving.

Reach out.Share.Smile.Hug.

Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on other, without getting a few drops on yourself.

Its in your attitude to look good and happiness....... If your attitude allows then you will able to see the same beauty in this tree too as you find the beauty in a bouquet of Red Roses .

So its all lies in your vision and attitude.

Change your attitude so that you are ready to see the beauty in every one in this world and in every where of this nature.

Have fun!!!

Smiles

Laughing Faces does not mean that there are no sorrows!

But it means, That they have the ability to deal with them!!!!

No one is born happy ..But all of us are born with the ability to create happiness ..

So today be happy..... and make others happy ..

Flash your sweetest smile.

Give a smile to those who dont have on their face...

:)

Have a day full of smiles...

Happy New Year 2009!